There is significant evidence that shows that “liking your boss” is a huge source of work satisfaction. Put another way, if you don’t like your boss, you will not be happy. Accenture says 31% of people leave their job because of their boss here.
Luckily, I like my boss. He is super fair, trusting, easy to get along with, and most importantly, knows what he is doing. Seriously, leaders need to lead, right?
Some things I have said to my boss. . .which tells me that I am in a safe environment, somewhere I can challenge myself and others, innovate, and grow:
- I am not brilliant, but we just can’t be doing XYZ without losing face
- He means well, has some strengths, but is not in the right role to succeed
- Need to let you know that there is risk; was a part of a meeting that did not go well
- I am not the right person. Might make sense to have ABC do that, (s)he is better
- Yes, we can make those changes, but probably not tonight. Too late, and we don’t want to be experimenting before the proposal
- Sorry to have to say this, but the raise / incentive did not show in the last paycheck
- Don’t recommend that. We have those 2 pages which tell enough of the story
- I don’t know, but I will find out
- Doesn’t it make sense that we ABC?
- Sorry, it was a miss on my part
If you don’t have an authentic relationship with your boss. First of all, that sucks. Second, I guess you have a few choices to make:
- Do great work, try to develop a mentor relationship
- Find the white spaces, and volunteer to do more
- Make your boss look great
- Be vulnerable, and try to connect on a deeper level
- Find ways to be helpful, and show that you are loyal and committed
- Learn what you can and move on
- Wait until your boss leaves
- Find new “roots” in the organization, laterally, or elsewhere