There is significant evidence that shows that “liking your boss” is a huge source of work satisfaction.  Put another way, if you don’t like your boss, you will not be happy. Accenture says 31% of people leave their job because of their boss here.

Luckily, I like my boss.  He is super fair, trusting, easy to get along with, and most importantly, knows what he is doing.  Seriously, leaders need to lead, right?

Leader follower

Some things I have said to my boss. . .which tells me that I am in a safe environment, somewhere I can challenge myself and others, innovate, and grow:

  • I am not brilliant, but we just can’t be doing XYZ without losing face
  • He means well, has some strengths, but is not in the right role to succeed
  • Need to let you know that there is risk; was a part of a meeting that did not go well
  • I am not the right person.  Might make sense to have ABC do that, (s)he is better
  • Yes, we can make those changes, but probably not tonight.  Too late, and we don’t want to be experimenting before the proposal
  • Sorry to have to say this, but the raise / incentive did not show in the last paycheck
  • Don’t recommend that.  We have those 2 pages which tell enough of the story
  • I don’t know, but I will find out
  • Doesn’t it make sense that we ABC?
  • Sorry, it was a miss on my part

If you don’t have an authentic relationship with your boss.  First of all, that sucks. Second, I guess you have a few choices to make:

  • Do great work, try to develop a mentor relationship
  • Find the white spaces, and volunteer to do more
  • Make your boss look great
  • Be vulnerable, and try to connect on a deeper level
  • Find ways to be helpful, and show that you are loyal and committed
  • Learn what you can and move on
  • Wait until your boss leaves
  • Find new “roots” in the organization, laterally, or elsewhere
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